On being a mirror.

Remember that we cannot control the story others tell themselves about us. But we can help.

My friend from yesterday's post, remember him? It was tough for me to share with him how he came across. I want to be supportive - and what I really mean is "nice." But "nice" is not what was needed. An honest reflection is what the situation, and my friend, required - I needed to be a mirror.

To reflect someone back to themselves so that they can learn and grow is generous. It's supportive and challenging at the same time.

If you love your friends, be a mirror.

They'll thank you.