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More on defining the fear

Have you thought about quitting a job? More than that, have you thought about quitting even though you don't have something to jump to? What are you so afraid of?

If you know that you're afraid but don't know what you're afraid of, consider questions.

Are you afraid of making a decision?

  • If I stay, what is the real challenge for me at work that keeps me from feeling effective?

  • What is the real challenge for me in communicating a desire to move on? What is the real challenge for me in deciding to move on?

  • How is this job keeping me from getting to do more work that matters to me?

Are you afraid of not knowing what you'll do next?

  • What if I could be free? How might I feel having total freedom to decide what's next? Why am I so afraid of being free?

  • Do I have enough money to survive without a job? How might I save up more so that I'm in a safe position? How much more will I have to say?

  • How will I survive without a job? Can I reduce expenses and simplify my life more? How might I enjoy a simple life? What more could I learn about myself and how I use my time and my resources?

Are you afraid of how others will respond?

  • Why do I care what others think of me sticking up for myself? How might I show them how to be happy for me?

  • Do others live my life? Will they be in my grave with me when I cease to exist? If the answer is no, why do I care so much for their opinion?

  • How might I use this as a way to show people how much they mean to me?

Fruit is always ripest before it falls.
The journey is always most fun just before the end.

We have much to look forward to as move on to the next chapters in our life. But what keeps us from enjoy that moment is fear.

Use questions to help outline the fear that's in front of you.

Trace it's shape.

Once you can see it, you can do something with it.