If one of your friends lost their family and a majority of their friends, do you have capacity to be present with them?
Airline flight attendants always advise passengers to “put on their mask first before assisting others,” in the event of a loss of cabin pressure. In the same way, I believe it’s hard to give the resource of your time and energy to others when you don’t give it to yourself.
I wonder if it’s beneficial to operate with a surplus of time and energy that can be tapped for emergencies versus always being near empty.