I act the exactly the opposite of how my team expects me to act. If they expect me to get pissed, I act calm. If they expect me to be calm, I act a bit cooky — arguably, my steady state.
I notice that the humans I lead act the opposite of the way I expect them to behave too.
The universe, life, everything — all of that is under no obligation to make sense to us. (borrowing a line from Neil deGrasse Tyson).
I have found the best way to lead is to prostrate myself before the absurdity that is life and human nature, embrace it in all its glory, and approach slightly off center.