Sometimes….

The amount of temperance and methodicalness ought to increase proportionate to the amount of reactivity someone wants you to express.

Example:

Action: Highly reactive person comes to you and demands your immediate attention and action.

Reaction: You demonstrate more temperance and more method as you seek to understand what’s happening and what’s being asked of you.

Note of Caution

Situational awareness and context matter. If someone is yelling to run because there’s a fire in the building, that’s not the moment to stop and wonder.