Humans love options. We love to get to choose. You have the option of assuming the best in your neighbor, and you can choose to assume the worst. You get to choose to see the best in your coworker, and you have the option of seeing the worst. You get to see your life as one big stress fest, and you get to see the moment for what it is — a moment. Assume the best from one another. You might be wrong, but you’re more than likely right. Trust yourself.

Dad brought me back to earth the other day when he said:

“We’ve got nowhere to go but here.”

Think of all the errands you need to run today, all of the people you need to call back, all of the work you need to do - it’s a lot. And it can feel like you have everywhere to go with no time to go there.   

What if this thought frenzy is really just your mind being everywhere but here - in the moment?  

You should live life to the fullest. Heard that phrase said to you?  

Well, what does that mean? What is the fullest? And when you’ve reached the fullest, then what?  

You are living a life that’s yours. Nobody else in this universe has what you have - your experience. You get to choose how you will live your life. And, you get to define what “fullest” means for you.

Perhaps the advice may be better worded as, “Choose to live your life to your fullest.”

We get nervous about our first gigs. We want to make a good impression, get invited back, and impress. But we forget that we had to do those things to get invited to play in the first place. Relax, you already won over someone enough to get invited to play.Now, you must show up, do the hard work, step into your fear, and get invited to play again tomorrow.

You might work 12 hours in a day, and feel exhausted. You might work 12 hours in a day and feel energized. It’s not the work day that’s long or energizing, it’s the work you get to do. Fill your day with the work that gets you energized. Everything else is a distraction.

Today, Gilles Frozen Custard will feature caramel cashew as their featured custard - their flavor of the day. Tomorrow, the flavor will be different.   Don’t get lost chasing the flavor of the day. Tomorrow might be something better, and the flavor you’re chasing may come back in the future. Perhaps better.For now, enjoy now.

One of the worst activities in the world is having to fire someone from a job. I don’t care how seasoned a manager you are; it’s never easy. In fact, I told myself the day it starts becoming easy is the day I fire myself.  See, some people think that firing someone is a way of saying, “you’re not doing a good job, you need to go.” But, for me, I believe it’s actually saying:We failed at recruiting, and we set you up for a job that wasn’t for you.We poorly managed you and did not invest the time to help you.We screwed up your life. We hired you into a job that may not be for you, poorly managed you, and now we’re causing a tremendous amount of stress.Fortunately, I am privileged and blessed to work with great people. But, as I reflected on work I’ve had to do in the past, I was reminded of having to let people go and the vow to fire myself if it ever got easy.  Great managers help the people in their charge do more of the work that matters to them. The great manager enables her team to see more in themselves, activate potential, step into possibility, and come alive.  I hope to never have to fire myself. I also hope to be the best manager and friend I can possibly be to my most important employee - myself.

We don’t all want the same thing.  One person may be overjoyed to pay $4,000.00 for a functional used car so that they can invest more of their money. While another person is happy to carry a $400+ car payment for a newer model. The question isn’t who spent their money better. The question is, how is each person measuring the value of their car in their life?  For one person, the car’s value is the money they are saving by not paying a car loan. For the other, the car’s value is in the status and reputation it will bring to its driver. Each person’s car provides a currency of value that is unique to that person. What about work?Your success at work may be a promotion, but for me, it might be coming to work the next day. Your success currency is status; mine is “being welcomed.” If you want to help me have a winning day, you’ll need to show me that I’m welcomed. If I want to help you have a winning day, I’ll need to show you how to acquire more influence and responsibility.  If you want to help others, understand their currency.

Are these words we say to ourselves too much? Do we believe that we ought to be perfect? Without fault? Always on? What if our faults were our strengths? What if our ability to see our weaknesses, and work on them, became a superpower? What if a good day was measured by the number of times we learned from our faults? I know you might feel like you just can’t do anything right for yourself or others some days. I also know you are the kind of person that reflects, realizes your fears, and then steps towards possibility.Perfection is the acceptance of imperfection. You are doing everything right.

Are you ever caught between deciding if you should or can?  “Should I do this?” is another way of saying, “I know it’s the right thing to do, but I don’t want to put myself on the line. Will you tell me that it’s okay? (or not?)” It’s the question you ask when you need someone to tell you that you’re right - to re-assure you.  “I can do this.” is a statement. It says, “I know I have the ability to do the work.”  It’s a statement that gives you the authority to choose. Choose what? To act.Deciding that you can is the lever you need to act.Choose wisely.