Kindness trumps niceness.

What sounds better?I care about you getting what you need to be happy; this job won’t help you get there in this way _____. I’m happy to help you get to where you are going. Would that help?Or…Thanks so much for chatting! It was great talking to you. I’ll get back to you soon. [Recruiter sends you an email a week later declining the job without explanation]Nice is avoiding the direct conflict and opting for an email.Kindness is having the courage to speak the truth and the compassion to help someone move forward.Kindness trumps niceness.