If you learn improv acting, you will likely learn the technique called "yes, and..."
Person A: "It's a horrible day out."
You: "Yes, and it's great that we get to appreciate it."
Person A: "But I don't want to appreciate it. I want to stay home."
You: "Yes, and at home you get to stay warm..."
... you see how this goes.
Well, what if we used that technique for getting over any problem? And what if that technique helped us get over those problems ridiculously fast? ... if we practice.
Here's the scenario.
Your boss calls. They have criticize your work, and you start feeling the pressure - perhaps you didn't deliver enough? Maybe this is their way to get rid of you? What about all of the other work you've been doing? Didn't they notice that?
Can you relate to that feeling?
Now, after your boss gives you feedback you say to yourself: "Yes, it's unfortunate that I got this feedback, and I am fortunate that I am not harmed by it."
Or, perhaps someone gets under your skin with a comment they make about/towards you. That comment really stings. You are bothered. Yes, it's unfortunate that they made their comment, and I am fortunate that I am not harmed by it.
What I like about this approach is that, like improv, it keeps the scene (read: life) in motion. No stopping to brood or think about how upset we should be about something that never physically hurt it. Instead, we acknowledge and then move - "yes, and..."
During your next internal crisis, try it out.
Yes, and...
