I’ve been using this nifty device to advocate for myself. Try it.
Situation: Moment when I interpret the events of something in a negative way. Perhaps someone said something to me that I didn’t like. Maybe I didn’t like the result of something I tried.
Actions
Reflect: Determine the story that I’m telling myself about what just happened.
Declare: “Hey, the story that I’m telling myself now is that ____”
Ask: “Is this story accurate? What am I missing? How do I make this a more complete story?”
Listen.
Incorporate what you learned back into your story.
Ask yourself: What would it mean for me to believe this new story?
Start telling yourself that new story.
Enjoy
Try it out!