I’ve been using this nifty device to advocate for myself. Try it.

Situation: Moment when I interpret the events of something in a negative way. Perhaps someone said something to me that I didn’t like. Maybe I didn’t like the result of something I tried.

Actions

1. Reflect: Determine the story that I’m telling myself about what just happened.

2. Declare: “Hey, the story that I’m telling myself now is that ____”

3. Ask: “Is this story accurate? What am I missing? How do I make this a more complete story?”

4. Listen.

5. Incorporate what you learned back into your story.

6. Ask yourself: What would it mean for me to believe this new story?

7. Start telling yourself that new story.

8. Enjoy

Try it out!