Perhaps the best way to win an emotional and divisive argument is to ask that question.
I watched a couple loudly argue with themselves. They argued over the question, did they leave enough leg room for their guest? Their guest happened to be sitting in the car waiting for them to finish the argument. I wanted to ask the couple, are you all getting what you want from this?
The short term thinker in our brain might answer that question with a “yes.” I imagine the long term thinker would answer “no.”
Too often favor the short and ignore the long term ramifications of our actions.
Maybe that’s why we often feel like we aren’t getting enough?